Has the love of your life left you and are you feeling totally lost? Shake it off! With these heartbreak hacks, soon you’ll be over your ex. And that even rhyms!
For this very emotional subject we needed experts to help us with the right information, based on studies and experience. One of our experts is Kimberly Herhenson. She’s a therapist specialized in relationships. She already has helped a lot of people to get over a heartbreak and now she wants to share some of her tips with MURIËLLE Magazine.. An angel send from above!
1. Make a daily gratitude list before going to bed.
Write down 10 things you are grateful for. Anything from your family, your hobbies, favorite tv shows and all the other little things. You will focus on what is good in your life instead of ‘what is going wrong with your life’. This will calm you down.
2. Read affirmations daily.
Begin your day on a good foot by starting your day with positivity.
3. Have a daily routine practicing self-care.
‘Would you like an adventure now, or would like to have your tea first?’ We’d say have your tea first! Doing something just for yourself every day is crucial to mental stress. Whether it’s having tea/coffee, having a bad or a 10 minute stretch.
4. Start a meditation practice.
Yes we are for real! Search for guided meditation on Youtube or download a free app and meditate even if it’s for 5 minutes. You will see that it really calms you down and you can see things more clearly.
5. Practice acceptance.
Acceptance turns out to be one of the most helpful attitudes to bring to mindfulness. So here is what you need to do: make a list of what you can control regarding the breakup and what you can’t control (your ex’s behavior). Focus on what you CAN control and accept what you cannot control.
6. Reach out for help.
Reach out to a friend, family member or maybe a therapist. Let them know how you’re feeling so you don’t have to cope with your breakup alone.
7. Write out the traits you don’t like about your ex.
And carry it around with you like a secret map to happiness again. Every time that you’re feeling upset or having the urge to call your ex, just read every thing you wrote down to remind you why you’re better of without him or her.
8. Organize the Memories.
That’s what Dr. Paul DePompo, clinical psychologist, says. ‘Yes, you will go back and forth from missing your ex to being angry. The problem is that your brain cannot start putting this in the past unless it understands that your ex was not ALL GOOD or ALL BAD. You job here is to pair the things you WILL miss about them (when they pop into your mind), with the things about them you WON’T miss.’ Sounds easier than done. Any tips Dr. Paul DePompo? ‘Yes, for example: You wake, and while taking a shower, you miss the morning coffee and think, I miss having coffee with them in the morning… Now your job is to connect what you won’t miss: But I won’t miss wondering who they are having drinks with after work! Continuing to pair the positive and negative will help your brain process the acceptance of this persona not being horrible – just not for you.’
9. Go on a social media diet.
‘Or better yet unfollow your ex everywhere you have the chance of seeing him/her having a great time without you.’ says I Julienne Derichs, LCPC, a licensed clinical professional counselor. This is really one of our essential heartbreak hacks guys!
10. And finally.. move on.
Coach Renee Suzanne says that you need to set a date to get back online, start going out and meeting new people, get rid of all their things if you haven’t already. This is the last step because if you do this too early you may not have the best shot at creating a better relationship next time. You need to take the time to grief and focus on yourself.
Have you ever experienced a heartbreak and do you want to share your thoughts about coping with this kind of grief? Leave a comment and we will serve you a part 2 0f the heartbreak hacks!